Life's Lessons with Jai

Deep in my feelings, When “Feelings, so deep in my feelings. No this ain’t really like me. Can’t control my anxiety” Makes you feel like you’re touchin’ the ceiling; when you’re with them you can’t breathe and they do something to you; then you find yourself deep in thought and realize you just might be trip trip trippin’. That becomes the moment you take time out and ask yourself what does this mean to you. Are these legitimate feelings? Are they temporary feelings needed for the moment or are you just lonely and the possibility of any attention is better than none? Are these feelings you’re feeling based on a physical, emotional , spiritual and intellectual attraction. Are they feelings that make you wanna be open? Or are you honestly tired and lack trust in believing in these feelings and realize these just might simply be words to a good song. What happens when the feelings aren’t mutual? Maybe you or they aren’t in the mindset to want to be deep on any level with anyone. What

YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE In my pursuit to date I notice that there is often a double standard when a woman wants to explore her options. Men can tell you upfront they are not looking for a relationship. They can have a fear of commitment and as women we are supposed to accept it. Because they’ve expressed some interest in you, they perceive we will take a number and get in line with the other women who are vying for their attention.   We as women are supposed to be okay with him choosing to engage us when it fits for him, getting ghosted with no explanation and expected to be okay with sharing them with other women. Courting is damn near obsolete and we are expected to think Netflix and Chill is an appropriate date. After all, at least he’s giving you some time.   We are supposed to be okay with texts not returned for days even though its been on read since shortly after being sent.   We are supposed to be okay with “I just don’t like to text” Or I’m too

“Just Get Over It” Sometimes people give what they feel is good advice but may not be able to see how much that “advice” lacks empathy or may even be unrealistic for the other person. Things like “just get over it, or you’re better off, or if that was me, I would” aren’t always the things a person needs to hear. While I don’t think that every person’s response lacks empathy, it’s easy to feel you would handle a situation a certain way and not have had to deal with it.     You may be able to be stronger in a situation or grieve differently; but each person’s journey is their own; as to that is their response in life and their own growth process. Too many people walk around with false bravado and “I wish a person would” mentality. We each experience life differently and are allowed to process things how we do. We are allowed to heal and “get over” things that have happened when the time is right for us. A person who can lose a loved one, grieve and appear mentally str